The Umembeso ceremony is one of the traditions that form part of the Zulu wedding process. This usually happens after the ilobolo has been paid, and it involves the goom and his family bringing gifts to the bride’s family.
The standard procedure involves the in-laws arriving at the house of the bride and gathering outside the gate with gifts, as a way to thank the family. Singing and dancing to traditional Zulu marriage songs “ukusina” are also takes place while awaiting entry inside. In order for the ceremony to start, a small group of the in-laws are sent into the house to retrieve the bride or alternatively, the bride’s father brings her outside.